Embracing Sadness and Finding Joy: A Study of Our Life in Christ During the Holidays - Part 3: Bending our Knees Like the Shepherds

Merry Christmas, everyone! If you have been following along, you know I have been doing a series on embracing the emotion of sadness during the holidays as it pertains to our life in Christ. In Part 1, we looked at why it is okay to be sad, that God is the author of emotions, and tips for maneuvering grief during the holidays. In Part 2, we looked back at God’s faithfulness and how that pertains to dealing with sadness, and mulled over why remembering His faithfulness is like a wall of defense for our minds.

Today we are going to go directly to the Christmas story and look at what we can learn from the Shepherds and how that enables us to have joy, even in the midst of heartache and grief.

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8 In the same region there were some shepherds staying out in the fields and keeping watch over their flock by night.
9 And an angel of the Lord suddenly stood before them, and the glory of the Lord shone around them; and they were terribly frightened.
10 But the angel said to them, “Do not be afraid; for behold, I bring you good news of great joy which will be for all the people;
11 for today in the city of David there has been born for you a Savior, who is Christ the Lord.
12 This will be a sign for you: you will find a baby wrapped in cloths and lying in a manger.”
13 And suddenly there appeared with the angel a multitude of the heavenly host praising God and saying,
14 “Glory to God in the highest,
And on earth peace among men with whom He is pleased.”
15 When the angels had gone away from them into heaven, the shepherds began saying to one another, “Let us go straight to Bethlehem then, and see this thing that has happened which the Lord has made known to us.”
16 So they came in a hurry and found their way to Mary and Joseph, and the baby as He lay in the manger.
17 When they had seen this, they made known the statement which had been told them about this Child.
18 And all who heard it wondered at the things which were told them by the shepherds.
19 But Mary treasured all these things, pondering them in her heart.
20 The shepherds went back, glorifying and praising God for all that they had heard and seen, just as had been told them.
— Luke 2:8-20 (NASB 1995)

Shepherding was a vital industry all throughout the Old Testament with numerous “big names” in Biblical history doing this difficult, outdoor, sometimes life threatening job. Abel, Abraham, Issac, Moses and David were all shepherds. Though the socioeconomic status of a shepherd had declined by the time of Jesus’ birth, the commitment of shepherds to care for their flocks still stood strong. They regularly faced predators that included wolves, lions, bears, hyenas, and leopards. They walked many miles to find feeding areas, as well as water. Shepherds were always vigilant. Even after the sheep were led into the fold for the night, a shepherd would place his body across the doorway to keep out unwanted predators. Apparently there were occasions where shepherds would mix their herds together for the evening to split the guarding shifts. In the morning they were easily able to sort the sheep by the sound of each shepherd’s voice.

It might be, on the night the angel came to these shepherds that was the case. Perhaps four or five shepherds had come together, and while a few of them slept the others kept watch over the sheep. I am pretty sure they were all wide awake when that angel showed up!

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There are many things we can learn from the shepherds that can help us in our season of sadness around the holidays. Let’s take a look.

1 - Shepherds were living life. These shepherds were doing their work. They were guarding their sheep: leading, guiding, feeding, watching, giving aid, tending to wounds, and certainly searching for any lambs that may have wandered away. Any one of those shepherds or shepherdesses (yes, women were shepherds too…talk about bad a**) could have been feeling sad. They could have been grieving the loss of a family member, the loss of a sheep (they were required to pay for any sheep lost or killed); they could have been struggling with illness, or blisters on their feet, or maybe they were discouraged because they really wanted to be a singer in the temple choir, but here they are tending sheep.

When we are dealing with sadness or grief, one of the best things to do, is keep living life. Go to work, meet with friends, get groceries, work on a closet, clean a bathroom; even the most mundane tasks that contribute to living life help us to process and get through. Listen to this quick snippet that reminds us why even making the bed can help.

2. Shepherds were brave and intelligent. Frankly I find it fascinating that shepherds were not seen as super heroes. I mean, beating off wolves, bears, an occasional lion or two had to be a tough job. These people were not weak, nor were they soft. They were weathered, strong, and probably wiry. They also had to have job intelligence, meaning they knew where to go to feed the sheep, where to find water, which in itself was a challenge in an arid climate. Sheep being what they are don’t like to drink from moving water, as it spooks them. They needed still water that wasn’t tainted with bacteria or other things that would make the sheep sick.

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If you are working through a time of grief, learn what works for you to not only process that grief, but also the things that help you to continue living life. That will look different for every person. I personally like the “grief blanket” idea. I can allow myself to feel sadness for a time, and then get up and do other things. Maybe for you dealing with sadness is easier when you keep busy while also allowing your mind to remember why you are sad. Know what things will cause you to give in to the sickness of despair and depression, and find “safe water” to drink - like the water of God’s truth in His word.

3 - The shepherds were curious. After they got over the initial shock of seeing angelic beings, the shepherds high tailed it for Bethlehem to see the child of which they were told. In your sadness, be curious. Ask God what He wants you to learn about His character, yourself, or someone else. Be curious about Biblical accounts of people who dealt with grief and sadness. Read about Sarah, Hannah, Naomi, David, Nehemiah, Job (read the whole book to not only understand his grief, but know better the God who deals, reveals and restores,) and even Jesus as he is moved with compassion, and yes grief in the Gospel accounts.

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4 - The shepherds were humble. I will acknowledge I am making an assumption about the shepherds’ humility. However, seeing the type of job they had and the lifestyle they lived I do not think they were the type of people who would put on airs and act as though they knew everything or had it all together. They really strike me as just regular, hard working people, that maybe were a bit smelly. Ha, ha. But they were real. The thing I love about this Biblical account is their unbridled enthusiasm. Why does that make them humble? Because they didn’t care about what people would think, they didn’t care that they were the best dressed, or clean, or had lots of money. They just wanted Jesus, and isn’t wanting Jesus all about humility?

Wanting the true Jesus of the Bible is about choosing to give up ourselves: our preconceived ideas, our knowledge base, our education, our upbringing, our trauma, our grief, our discouragement, our wealth, our status, our identity, and letting it all go to embrace the baby in the manger - the Wonderful Counselor, the Mighty God, the Everlasting Father, and the Prince of Peace.

For a child will be born to us, a son will be given to us;
And the government will rest on His shoulders;
And His name will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God,
Eternal Father, Prince of Peace.
— Isaiah 9:6 (NASB 1995)



How to Keep Christ in Christmas

Last week I discussed Getting Through the Holidays Without Losing Your Mind. You can read that post by clicking on the link. In that article I gave four areas to look at to take care of yourself during the busy holiday season. Those areas I referred to included, figuring out what you can let go of, setting boundaries, taking care of yourself and practicing gratitude. These things are applicable to all who experience stress during the Christmas season. This week I would like to specifically speak to those who celebrate Christmas as a religious holiday.

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For those of us who follow Christ, Christmas is equal in importance to the celebration of Easter. If Jesus had never been born, we wouldn’t have access to the Almighty God, who created us for His good pleasure. Christmas is the epitome of strength becoming weakness; that almighty power coming into acute focus as the baby born to Mary. He was fully God and became fully man. Imagine, a being who is so huge in our incomprehension, being made into a tiny, fertilized seed, growing for nine months in the womb and making the pressurized journey down the birth canal to explode into the light of a sin filled world. To me it is incomprehensible! Yet, I know it to be true. I also know that it was not just love for us, but love for His Father, that drove Jesus to choose obedience to that vulnerable birth and obedience to an even more vulnerable cross. It is this mentality that needs to drive us as we immerse ourselves in the festivities of the Christmas season.

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We all know how easy it is to get caught up in the busyness of this season. There’s shopping and decorating, baking and cleaning, wrapping and gathering, all good things, but so often as we focus on getting our to do list checked off, we lose sight of the true meaning of this holiday. I know I do. I can easily become overwhelmed with all of the things I need to get done and fret that I don’t have more time to do them. We also, all know that fretting does not lead to peace and isn’t peace, part of what makes this season so beautiful? At least it should. So, just how can we keep the true meaning part of our focus? Here are several ideas.

Keep Jesus Close - As you shop, wrap, bake and decorate meditate on Him. Remind yourself of His birth and remember that He is with you wherever you go. You might think it is silly, but I often imagine Jesus sitting next to me in the car or standing next to me as I wash dishes. Hey, He endowed all of us with an imagination, so I have no shame in using it. Envisioning Him as a person with me, helps me to focus on the fact that He really is there even though I cannot physically see Him. It helps me to remember why I love Christmas, because it is all about Him.

Listen to Music - There is nothing better, in my mind, to help me get in the true Christmas spirit, than listening to Christmas music. It doesn’t just have to be traditional carols like The First Noel, It Came Upon a Midnight Clear, or Oh Holy Night, but songs that really speak to the message of why we celebrate this season bring the truth back into focus. It is also good to listen to different versions of these Christ-focused carols. For instance my husband and I both agree that Josh Groban’s version of O Holy Night sings as if he was actually there, feeling the peace and beauty of the birth of Jesus. On the other hand, What Child is This, as portrayed by Andrea Bocelli and Mary J. Blige is the most amazing and powerful version of this song I have ever heard. The culmination of their voices is almost angelic as they usher us into the powerful glory of our Lord’s vulnerability.

Having music playing while you are in the car going to the mall, or to a party, or when you are wrapping presents or baking cookies can help to keep your mind in a state of peace and joy throughout the season, even if circumstances around you are difficult.

Watch Christmas Movies - I know a lot of people don’t like to watch the same movies over and over. My husband is one of them, but he tolerates my love for seeing these classic movies every year and occasionally watches them with me. There are fun movies like White Christmas and Jingle All the Way, but there are also movies with a message that transcends this particular holiday. Take for instance A Christmas Carol. A book originally written by Charles Dickens, it was first made into a movie in 1910. Hollywood has come a long way since then, but my two favorite versions are the 1984 version with George C. Scott and the 1992 version with the Muppets. I just finished watching the George C. Scott version the other day and these two scenes really stood out to me.

Obviously, Marely is miserable and it is his knowledge that everything he did in life was meaningless. “….mankind was my business….” Wow! If that doesn’t remind us to take a look at our priorities, I don’t know what will.

I love this scene of transformation. Scrooge was a changed man. Oh, that we would be so changed by the spirit of our Lord Jesus Christ who dwells within us and gives us the ability to be new, each and every day!

Do Something to Serve - I know this seems a bit counter intuitive, when we are so busy, why do something that makes us even busier? The point is to love and worship Jesus by showing love to others. It might be something as simple as baking cookies for your co-workers or leaving a card for your mail carrier, thanking him/her for her hard work. It can be something more complex like visiting shut ins or serving at your local soup kitchen. Often these places are inundated at the holidays, because people are thinking about serving others. Why not schedule your service for February or March, when many of these people are forgotten?

Set Up Some Sort of Memorial - This might be your nativity. Letting your children be involved in getting the pieces out and setting them up helps them to remember Christmas is about Jesus. If you don’t have a nativity and don’t want to make that purchase, decorate a jar with Christmas colors. Every day have you and your family members write down on small slips of paper things they love about Christmas, the Christmas story or things they are thankful for, then on Christmas eve or Christmas morning go through your jar, reading these things out loud. You could then spend a few minutes in prayer, praising and thanking Jesus for all He has done for you.

However you celebrate Christmas and no matter how busy you are, I hope that you will take the time, even if only for a few moments to really think about what the reason for this season really is.

Have a great day!

Getting Through the Holidays Without Losing Your Mind

Most of us are aware, the holidays can be an incredibly, busy time. As women, the bulk of the preparations for holiday gatherings fall on our shoulders. Things might be different for you, but I know for me I am the one who makes the holidays happen. I do the shopping, the decorating, the baking, the meal planning, the wrapping and the packing when we travel out of town. I am also the one to clean up after the gatherings, take down the decorations, get rid of the torn paper, ribbons and bows and unpack and do laundry when we come back into town. This is also a busier time of year at a university bookstore as we are checking in students’ rental books, getting in books for next term and making those available for students who want to buy their books early.

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You might wonder why I do it all. Why don’t I delegate some of the holiday responsibility or just not do some of the typical holiday activities? Realistically, I do it because I want to. I love Christmas. I love everything about it. However, I do understand that not everyone feels this way. In fact, contrary to Andy Williams song It’s The Most Wonderful Time of the Year, the holidays can be the most difficult time of the year.

There are numerous factors that can make the Christmas season more of a burden, rather than a delight. Financial strain, job loss, illness, family tensions, influences from our pasts and the loss of a loved one, can all make the upcoming festivities seem more like a chaotic, commercial filled nightmare.

For those of us who call ourselves Christians, the meaning of Christmas is clear. This is the time we celebrate and remember the birth of Christ, the one we refer to as our Savior and King. Knowing this and believing in Him are key to understanding the Christ part of Christmas. However, our society celebrates Christmas without Christ. The gift giving, family gatherings and well wishes are a way of showing love and of reconnecting with those who are important to us.

I’d like to offer a few ways to get through the holidays without losing your mind, even if you don’t celebrate because of Christ. I will do another post, specifically to that next week.

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1 - Pick and Choose

You honestly do not have to do everything. Figure out which things you absolutely love about Christmas and which ones don’t matter as much. I used to send out Christmas cards. I still love receiving cards in the mail, but I have found that is one thing, at this point in my life, that I had to let go of. As much as I love this tradition, I don’t have the time to commit to this holiday task. Perhaps you could do without all the decorating; a single Christmas tree in your window is as much decor as you need. Don’t worry about lights in the windows or a Better Homes and Gardens tree in every room of the house. Love baking, but feeling stressed out? Pick out one or two favorites to make. Let’s face it, often we just plain overdo.

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2 - Set Boundaries

You don’t have to go to every holiday party you are invited to. You also don’t have to be at every family gathering. If you have family out of town this can get a little bit overwhelming. For years after we were married my spouse and I traveled back to NY and WI every Christmas. We’d do four or five days in one place, come home for two days and then go to the other place for another four or five days. My spouse being a professor and homeschooling our girls made it easy to make this sort of commitment, but it was hard! We went through bouts of stomach bugs, snowstorms and not being able to have our own Christmas traditions. It was great for our kids in that they built an amazing relationship with both sets of grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins, but there did come a time when we said, we couldn’t do it any more. Now we usually go to one place for Thanksgiving and the other for New Years, that way we are home for Christmas with plenty of time in between to regroup and prepare for our own holiday celebrations.

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3 - Take Care of Yourself

At the holidays we tend to get less sleep and eat more foods that, while delicious, are not necessarily good for us. Extra calories in cookies, rich high fat meals and eating out more when shopping and party going make us feel sluggish and tired. Those types of food need to be eaten in moderation and we still need to make good choices by eating enough fruits and veggies, as well as drinking lots of water.

In addition, make sure you are getting sufficient rest, as well as exercise. I am preaching to the choir here, everyone. I struggle with getting exercise at other times of the year, but the holidays and the cold, drab weather make it even harder, but we all know that exercise is not only good for our physical health, but our mental health as well.

Investing in your hobbies or learning something new can also be good for you. Knitting, painting, playing music or doing puzzles can give your mind a much needed break from the stressors of the season.

If you have the time and resources you can also invest in your well being by scheduling a massage, a manicure or taking yourself out to do something you enjoy, like a movie or a visit to a coffee shop to read a book.

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4 - Be Grateful

No matter where you are at in life, you have things you can be thankful for. Food, clothes, heat, a bed to sleep in and a pillow to lay your head on. Things might be difficult for you this Christmas, but you can still find things to be thankful for, if you look. Every morning I am able to get out of bed and stand in a hot shower, I am thankful. During loss, and difficulty gratitude can make the difference between thriving and floundering,

These are just a few ideas of how to get through the holidays without losing your mind. I hope you find these helpful.

Do you have lots to do at this time of year? Be sure to take time to relax and enjoy the season.