When to Let it Go

A subscriber and friend of mine, suggested I do a post on how to know when it is time to let an item of clothing go. I thought this would be a good post to do while I am recovering from my out patient surgery, since it won’t require I do a lot of leg work. Ha, ha.

What I would like to do is go back through some of my old photos and review pieces that I have let go of and what the motivation was for getting rid of them. I hope this will be useful to all of you in determining what clothes you might have in your closet that need to be given the boot!

Motivation 1 - Weight Fluctuations

I am sad that I am one of those women that constantly struggles with my weight. I am the heaviest right now that I have ever been and honestly I am not pleased. I do not feel comfortable being at this weight and I know it is harder on my joints and my heart. However, I am also trying to be realistic about the need for grace and acceptance. I want to make better food choices and get some exercise, but I also know I may not loose that extra weight, so I have gotten rid of a number of things, that no longer fit.

These floral jeans were so fun, but by the time I got rid of them I could barely get them buttoned. There was nothing wrong with them, except they did not fit. Most of us are kidding ourselves when we say, “I’m going to hang on to that item, lose weight and fit back into it. More often than not, we are not going to fit back into those things we are hanging on to. I have developed the mentality, if I do lose weight, then I will take myself thrifting and get a few new things!

Motivation 2 - Worn Out

Another motivation to part with certain clothing items is that they get worn out. My hubby has tee shirts and underwear that could make him a priest, they are so holy! Ha, ha. He might think there is still plenty of wear left, but I try to sneak those out of his drawers and into the rag bag. Don’t donate items that are so worn you would no longer wear them. Throw them away or cut them up for rags to clean your car or your house.

Image by Jerzy Górecki from Pixabay

Motivation 3 - It’s just not the right fit for me.

Over these past years of being a fashion blogger, I have gotten better at figuring out what works and what doesn’t for my body type. That doesn’t mean I can’t wear all sorts of clothes, but it does mean that some clothes will look better than others, which in turn, makes me feel more confident in my skin.

Let me show you a few examples. Both of these jackets are what we would call cropped jackets. They sit just above the pelvic bones, right about where my belly button is. I loved both of these; the first because it was velvet and the second because it was so colorful and unique. I recently got rid of both of them. Neither one really looks like it fit me well. The faux velvet piece was really a little too wide and droopy and the other was a tad bit too small.

This cropped denim jacket is a different story. It is a stretchy denim, so it fits like a glove, yet it still serves as a denim jacket. It goes with almost every thing I wear and adds a fun touch to a dress or skirt.

Finding pieces that fit properly is part of the process of becoming more fluent in your own fashion language. I think I need to discuss that further in a different post, so stay tuned for that.

Motivation 4 - It’s just not the right color.

You know I am the first one who will tell you that you should be able to wear every color under the sun, no matter what your skin tone, hair, or eye color. However, every color has variant shades and tones and this is what you need to be concerned with when picking out your clothing. Who says a red head can’t wear red or pink; or that a women with ivory skin can’t wear stark colors like black or navy? The trick is to find the right tones of those colors. If you have pieces in your closet that you rarely ever reach for, or when you put them on you don’t have that, “This looks awesome on me,” thought, then part of the problem might be the color.

Let me show you a side by side comparison of two tones of gray: a light oxford and a dark charcoal.

These were taken by the same photographer, on the same day, in the same lighting. I really think the image on the right, where I am wearing a charcoal gray cowel neck is a much better look on me, than the light gray or oxford sweater in the image on the left.

Play with various colors. Ask yourself what colors are you drawn to? What colors do you get the most compliments on when you are wearing it?

Motivation 5 - A pretty pattern or texture, but in the wrong place.

You have probably heard the term illusion when it comes to certain ways of putting an outfit together. If we are shorter, or have shorter, thicker legs, we want to create the illusion of height or length. If we have a thicker mid section, we want to wear pieces that give us the illusion of a waistline. Unfortunately, there are pieces that do the exact opposite and make us look bulky, boxy and wider than we would like. Patterns are one of those things that can accentuate or create an illusion. Here are a few examples.

Palazzo Pants

I have tried these flowy, patterned pants on numerous occasions and I just don’t seem to be able to pull it off. I have wide thighs and hips and these pants are not forgiving when it comes to that. I have gotten rid of all my palazzo pants. It doesn’t matter what we think about how pretty they are or fun and comfortable, if we don’t think we look good in them, we won’t wear them.

Lace and Ruffles

Photo by me.

I really do like lace and ruffles, but from now on I am only wearing it in small doses. A little bit of lace inlay on a top or lace trim on a skirt are very pretty, but too much lace, just like ruffles, starts to make me look like an old bride wanna be and I prefer my wedding days are done. You won’t find much lace or two many ruffly things in my closet these days. I think it works beautifully on many people, but it is not for me.

Horizontal patterns on skirts (or pants)

Some women like to draw attention to their booties, but I am not one of them and wearing too much horizontal, especially wider lines, on the bottom can make a person look disproportionate. This is especially true if you have smaller breasts and wider hips as in the triangle shape.

Here are a list of questions to ask yourself if you are considering whether to get rid of a clothing piece:

1 - Does it still fit?

2 - Is it a color you love and that looks good on you?

3 - Is it showing signs of wear or is it stained, pilly, or frayed?

4 - Does the pattern compliment your figure?

5 - Is it something you regularly reach for? If not, is it a piece that you at least reach for on special occasions, holidays or other special events?

6 - When you put it on does it make you say, “Wow! I look good in this?”

These are just a few things to think about if you are looking to get rid of a few pieces you are unsure of, or if you are looking to purge your whole wardrobe. I do a purge once or twice a year, usually when I am changing seasons; so before it gets warmer and before it gets colder. Many times I will make piles of things I need to try on. If they do not fit, I put them in a box to donate. If they are just not the right color, pattern or shape, they go into the box.

It really is better to develop a habit of only buying things you know you are going to wear and that, as Marie Kondo says, “Spark Joy.” I am still working on this, but as with so many good habits in life, it takes one choice at a time to make a change.

I hope you found this post helpful. Let me know in the comments how you decide to keep a clothing piece or how you choose to get rid of it. I’d love to hear your thoughts, because I learn new things from you all as well.

Have a great day!

Photo credit, unless otherwise specified, Rebecca Trumbull.