Word for 2024: Wait

I didn’t do a word for the year last year, but this year I felt as though I needed to take on that task again. I played around with a number of words including trust, and joy, but the word wait seemed to stand out as the place I am in right now.

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Wait is not a word we like to hear. We usually associate waiting with something bad, like rush hour traffic and test results on an exam, or from your doctor’s office. We typically look at waiting as something that is forced upon us, that we really, really don’t want to do. Like a child on Christmas morning who wants to open his presents, but mom and dad tell him he has to wait until after breakfast, waiting is a torment.

Think about the first time you went to an amusement park and you were finally tall enough to ride that really big roller coaster. You stand in line with your friends laughing and joking about how exciting it is going to be, but inside you are feeling slightly nauseous. The waiting is like an affliction. “Just get me to the front of the line and strap me in so I can get this over with!” You want to prove how brave you are to your buddies, while at the same time you are trying to keep your knobby knees from shaking. Waiting can be very hard.

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The word wait, according to Webster’s online dictionary means: to remain stationary in readiness or expectation; to look forward expectantly; to hold back expectantly; to be ready and available; pause or stop. When I looked at the thesaurus wait had many other related words and I will be looking at some of these over this next year, because I think it is important to fully understand why waiting is so important in our Christian walk.

This week I would like to look at several benefits waiting has for us.

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Safety - We all learn from a very young age to look both ways before we cross the street. Streets can be dangerous with cars darting back and forth. If we did not wait to cross we might get run over. The same is true in our Christian lives. We may not always see the dangers ahead, whether they be real physical dangers or dangers from our enemy in the spiritual realm. God sees and knows everything about our lives, and He knows when we are facing the dangers from poorly thought out decisions, toxic relationships, or even self destructive tendencies. Often, the best thing to do when we are not sure what to do is wait.

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Rest - A child often finds it hard to rest when they are waiting for Christmas morning, but as adults it seems God will often put us on our backsides when He knows we need to rest, but we are too stubborn to do it. This is very hard for women. We are doers, and we are constantly helping our families, our friends and people in our circles, like church family. These are not bad things. It is obvious a lot of work would go undone if women weren’t around to do it. However, I do think as Christian women we often find our worth, not in the God who made us, but in what we do. We love to check off all the boxes on our to do lists, and if something goes unchecked we are upset with ourselves.

I have news for you. You don’t have to do everything. I have been learning this the hard way over the last few years with illness, and continuous symptoms that make it difficult to do all the things I used to do. More of my time is spent managing symptoms and going to doctor’s appointments than I used to, and I struggle more with fatigue. Through it all I have been learning what it means to come to Jesus and find rest for my soul.

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Time - Most of us would agree, the one thing we wish we had more of is time. I often find myself at the end of the day wondering where the day went, and feeling like I didn’t get anything done. We wish our days could be longer, or the weekends could always be three days instead of two, or other time centered thoughts. It is true, since Covid brought the new normal of working from home, some people have more flex in their schedules, but I am pretty sure, even they long for more time.

It might sound strange, but waiting is basically getting back time. Obviously, there are certain situations where waiting involves keeping your focus, such as in a traffic jam, or standing in a slow moving line, but many times waiting affords us the opportunity of time. You might be between jobs, waiting for test results from a biopsy, looking for a long term relationship, or waiting to hear from your son or daughter who moved out. No matter what brought you to the waiting period, it is the perfect place to find God.

The author of the book of Ecclesiastes in the Old Testament understood this time element of life.

There is an appointed time for everything. And there is a time for every event under heaven—
— Ecclesiastes 3:1 (NASB 1995)

This leads me to believe that even the waiting times are appointed by God. He has a purpose for the busy times and the waiting times. He alone knows why life is the way it is for you, for me, for all of us. Perhaps He knows you need to rest, or that you are facing a situation where you need to be safe and secure, or that you just need time to regroup or decompress.

I am hoping over this next year to learn how to wait better. Perhaps you are in a waiting time in your life as well, maybe we can wait together.

Let me know in the comments if God is calling you to wait.






What if Life Doesn't Give You Lemons?

You’ve all heard the quote, “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.” My husband, who is ever the melancholy Dane said, “Well what if you don’t get lemons? What if you get rotten tomatoes? What are you supposed to make with those, rotten tomato juice?” We could go on and on with a list of bad things that we really can’t find a way to turn into something palatable. The whole point of the quote is that when bad things happen, turn them into something usable and good. That’s great when life is dealing you items that you can actually turn into something good or useful, but what about those situations where it seems that there is nothing good that can come out of it?

It is very easy to get focused on the bad. I know. I have to keep reminding myself, that even though my sense of smell is wonky and I can’t taste anything right now, I do have so many other blessings. I have most of my health back after a long illness. I have a beautiful new grandson and still get to enjoy time with my older grandson. I have a home, blankets and a working furnace, which is so wonderful during these cold days and nights. I have been reminded, however, that when we are going through something difficult it is okay to feel bad. My discomfort and pain is just as real as the next person’s, even if it isn’t at the same level.

I want to look at a few steps that I have found help me when life is throwing rotten tomatoes at me rather than lemons. I hope these will be helpful to you as well.

1 - Hide

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There are days, weeks and even months where hiding is not a bad idea. Getting away from the constant barrage of negative news, or input is not only important it is essential for good mental health. I know a number of people who have taken breaks from various forms of social media. Some have even pulled away all together, feeling that it was adding to their already anxious and discouraged mindsets. Even God’s word encourages us to occasionally hide.

Keep me as the apple of the eye; Hide me in the shadow of Your wings
— Psalm 17:8 (NASB)
For on the day of trouble He will conceal me in His tabernacle; He will hide me in the secret place of His tent; He will lift me up on a rock.
— Psalm 27:5 (NASB)
A prudent person sees evil and hides himself, But the naive proceed, and pay the penalty.
— Proverbs 22:3 (NASB)
Come, my people, enter your rooms And close your doors behind you; Hide for a little while Until indignation runs its course.
— Isaiah 26:20 (NASB)

There are times when life becomes overwhelming and the rotten tomatoes are coming at you; some of them may even contain the missiles of the enemy. Those are the times to hide. Hiding with an almighty God is an especially good place to be.

2 - Stand Up

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I know this might sound counterintuitive, especially when the world is flinging gloppy, rotten tomatoes at you. I also just got done telling you to hide, but there are times in life when the best thing we can do is take a stand.

If you have been following my blog for a while, you know that I have done studies on our unseen enemy and on the armor of God. As a refresher, take a look at these verses from Ephesians.

10 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of His might.
11 Put on the full armor of God, so that you will be able to stand firm against the schemes of the devil.
12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places.
13 Therefore, take up the full armor of God, so that you will be able to resist on the evil day, and having done everything, to stand firm.
14 Stand firm therefore...
— Ephesians 6:10-14a (NASB)

Certainly, there are times those tomatoes are flying from the chaos of the lives we are living; cars breaking down, the dishwasher leaking, the kids getting sick, these are all struggles that we deal with. There are other times, where those stinky, red missiles are coming from an unseen source; the very one who is wanting us to give up hope and turn away from our Lord and protector.

3 - Trust

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Let me take a moment at this point to talk about that idea of the Lord as our protector. Who hasn’t asked themselves, “If God loves us and He is our protector, then why are all these bad things happening?” The best way for me to explain this is to point out two factors.

The first is to remind all of you, we live in a fallen world. I was doing some reading in Hebrews for a devotional group I am in on Saturday morning. The comparison was being made of the old system of sacrificing bulls and goats to the one sacrifice of our Lord Jesus Christ. The author points out that God was not pleased with the system of sacrifice and provided a better alternative…the one time sacrifice of His Son Jesus Christ. The Father did not want to have the system of sacrifice, because His desire was to walk with the humanity He created in the perfect garden. It was mankind who chose to do wrong. The moment sin came into the world, God set Plan B into motion; the system of sacrifice and blood offerings.

The second point I want to make is that God provided a way, even after we messed things up. He always provides a way. It might be a way out, a way over, a way across, a way to hide or a way to take a stand, but He will always provide. Sometimes, we just have to wait on Him, as hard as it can be. Waiting is excruciating, especially when our struggle is overwhelming. We might have a terrible illness. We might be in constant pain. We might be battling an addiction either to drugs and alcohol or to pornography and toxic relationships. Still, if we can be still and wait, He will provide a way.

23 Let’s hold firmly to the confession of our hope without wavering, for He who promised is faithful;
— Hebrews 10:23 (NASB)

4 - Believe

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What is the difference between trust and belief? I would define them this way: trust is believing that someone or something is good or reliable. Belief is accepting that something is true. We can easily believe that God is good, yet not believe that everything that is in the scriptures is true. We can also believe that the Bible is true, but not necessarily believe that God is entirely good.

Belief is essential to having a right relationship with God. If we do not take God at His word we will always be doubting whether He can be trusted.

And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.
— Romans 8:28 (NASB)

When we put our faith in God the Father, and in the plan of salvation that He set forth though His Son, Jesus, we are also putting our faith in His Word. Believing what the above verse is saying is true makes it easier to know that even the rotten tomatoes will somehow turn into something good, even if the only thing they are used for is compost.

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5 - Rest

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I decided to separate rest from hiding, because while it is true that we could rest while we are hiding, much like Elijah did in the cave in I Kings 19, it is also true that we can be hiding, but be all pent up inside and not truly getting any rest. There is physical rest, emotional and mental rest. The type of rest you might need when the tomatoes are flying might be all of them or it might just be one.

When I was sick back in the fall, I really needed physical rest, because with my cough I was not sleeping at all. However, I also needed mental and emotional rest. I did not know what was wrong with me and I also did not know if I would ever get better. I had to keep going back to the truth of what I believed in Scripture.

28 “Come to Me, all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.
29 Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.
30 For My yoke is comfortable, and My burden is light.”
— Matthew 11:28-30 (NASB)

I would get off the couch the next morning, having to face another day of not feeling well, but I trusted what Christ said in that passage. Even though I wasn’t actually sleeping, He always got me through every day. I am so thankful He finally got me to a point where I was able to get help and start healing.

Rest may not always be the physical rest or the mental rest we think we need. There are times where the rest is simply laying back in the arms of our Savior and letting Him get us through those really bad days.

I don’t know what you might be facing as this new year progresses, but I hope that you will remember, even if you are being assailed by rotten tomatoes, God is right there with you and He will help you through.

Our Need for Rest - Part 2

A few weeks ago I wrote a post dealing with our need for rest. I was not speaking to the need for physical rest, so much as the need for mental and emotional rest from this chaotic world we currently find ourselves in. In that post I discussed three things that keep us from finding the rest we need: anxiety, lack of hope and misplaced trust. I also looked at what Jesus said to us in Matthew 11:28-30. In these verses we find three actions Christ calls us to take to find rest in Him: come, take and learn. This week I’d like to look at a few practical ways to help us find this much needed mental and emotional rest.

Get away from it all.

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I love the picture above. Doesn’t it look like a wonderfully peaceful place? I could easily see myself there just looking out over the beautiful scenery and allowing my mind and emotions to move back to the center of God’s love and peace. Getting away from the typical and usual is so important to allow our mental and emotional faculties to reboot and rest.

Getting away does not mean you have to go on a road trip to some remote location, although that sounds wonderful to me. Throw in a road trip on a motorcycle and I think it would be perfect. Ha, ha. Getting away can be as simple as unplugging from all your electronic devices and taking a stroll at a local park. It is important for our brains to take a break from the constant stream of information, especially the overwhelming negative information that we receive regularly in our news feeds. Here is an interesting article on that idea.

Take time for self care.

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We hear a lot about this idea of self care from bloggers, Instagram accounts and others. What exactly it looks like is really up to you. Self care is just that, caring for yourself. Your self care routine may involve a manicure, a pedicure, a facial or a massage. If you have a beach or park near by you might make time to take regular walks, not only clearing your head, but clearing your arteries as well. If you are like me and don’t have access to a beach and don’t have a lot of extra money you might take yourself thrifting, watch a show on Netflix or read a good book.

Let’s get real here, ladies. I know that many of you do not take time for self care, especially if you are my age or older. We were taught to work hard and that doing those frivolous activities were not part of being a good Christian, but that is ridiculous. Even Jesus got away, by Himself for periods of time, to get away from the crowds, his rambunctious disciples and reconnect with his Father in heaven. I am preaching to the choir friends. I struggle with this too. What I need to do is make my self care choices count, not just for the down time that I need, but as a way to be healthier and reconnect with my Lord.

Find what brings you joy and make that part of your self-care routine. Whether it is gardening, sewing, reading, writing, running, or taking a long relaxing bath, find a self care routine that will take your towards the rest that you need.

Tap into creativity.

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Everyone has some sort of creative bent. Even those who are in the practical sciences like medicine, engineering and computer science have hobbies and interests that tap into a creative parts of their brains. My father, who was an airplane mechanic, also enjoyed working the wood lathe and creating different items like a drying rack for towels and beautifully crafted pulpits for local churches. My mother, who kept the books for many years for my father’s business loved to sew. She made clothes for us when we were young and then got into quilting with a few other church ladies when she was older. There is nothing more therapeutic than working with your hands. I used to embroider and cross stitch, but now my creative outlet is writing.

What is something creative that you like to do? Or perhaps you have always longed to try it, but haven’t gotten up the gumption yet to commit. Do you want to sing, act, paint, dance, bake, cook or plant beautiful flowers? Find a creative outlet, that can take your mind off of the daily grind and the difficulties around you, even if it is just for a little while. That creative break will make you ready to go back to real life, and leave you better rested and equipped to handle it.

Learn how to recreate.

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The word recreate as defined by Webster’s Online Dictionary means, “to give new life or freshness to; to create again; to take recreation.” The word recreation means, “refreshment of strength or spirits after work; a means of refreshment or diversion.” In essence when you recreate you are bringing freshness and new life to your person, whether it be physical, mental or emotional.

Just as self care applies to you specifically and tapping into creativity is yours to explore; each person has to figure out how best to recreate. My spouse and I like to travel, hike and camp. We haven’t had the ability to do very many of those things over the last year and a half due to Covid and it is definitely affecting our well being and our ability to feel at rest. We have tried to take walks by the river, as well as do a few shorter trips just to get a change of scenery. Those things help, but I feel like we need a few other options. There are plenty of books on recreation and leisure, so I might check some of those out.

These are just a few ideas for attaining that rest we all desperately need; the rest of mind, emotion and spirit. What practical things do you do to find rest? I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Have a great day!