Fashion Topic: Loving Ourselves and Our Planet

If you are at all observant about the fashion industry you know our world is glutted with retail stores, boutiques, shops, and second hand stores all full to bursting with clothing pieces to tantalize and tempt our fashion palettes. There are many people who are not at all influenced by the industry. They could care less about what is currently trending, or who is wearing what at the Oscars.

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Young people, especially women, love the change of the seasons if just for the excuse to go buy a new outfit. The fast fashion movement is not slowing down and continues to provide new pieces to credit card clutching fashionistas in as little as two weeks from design idea to hanging in the store. See this article from earth.org. (I do not necessarily agree with all the philosophies and ideas put forth by this organization, but thought this was a good article on the impact of fast fashion on the environment.)

While I agree that slow fashion is a better way to go, many slow fashion retailers have price points that are more than many can afford. Granted they are better quality pieces and because of that will most likely be a long term wardrobe staple, meaning you don’t have to buy as much or as often.

I personally have found second hand to be the best way to buy new clothes and still help the environment by repurposing clothing and other goods that would have wound up in the land fill. Unfortunately, even second hand stores are feeling the affects of over production and over consumption. They are now fighting the “throw away” mentality. Young people especially are still buying with unfettered freedom, but now with the mentality that if they don’t like it, or it looks bad after a few washings, or it no longer fits they can just drop it off at the thrift store. I have seen more than one thrift store in our area close their doors to donations for periods of time to try to manage the bulging overstock they have and sell through some of what is on the sales floor.

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How do we deal with this problem in a way that will, not only help ourselves, but will also help our world? I think it all starts with us, the individual, and we have to start with one small change, or one small choice at a time. With all my health issues over the last three years, I have sought out therapy to help manage my new normal. I frequently get overwhelmed by the symptoms, the drugs, the appointments and the tests, but my therapist keeps reminding me change that is permanent comes about by starting small. I think this can apply to our overburdened clothing economy.

Here are a few ways to start small in your effort to become a more responsible and sustainable consumer:

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1 - Start at home. Obviously home is where we live, and if our homes are cluttered and too full our mental health will suffer. When our mental health suffers we tend to fall into those habits of shopping too much, overbuying, and feeling overwhelmed. It truly becomes a vicious cycle. Here are a few small ideas for dealing with the clutter at home.

a - Go through one part of your closet at a time. Perhaps start with your scarves. Go through and pull aside the ones you rarely wear, or those pieces that are scratchy and uncomfortable. Do the same over time with your tops, your bottoms, your sweaters, etc.

b - Decide how you want to get rid of things. There are lots of options, but remember the market is glutted, so selling may not always be the easiest way to off load things. Look for entities that service the underpriviledged. There are places that will take gently use work clothing to give to people who are trying to get back on their feet after being homeless, struggling with addiction and so on. These clothes can help them at job interviews, court dates and when looking for a place to live. There are also online groups that will sell you a bag that you can fill and send back to them. They will recycle the clothing, keeping it out of the landfills. Try Trashie, or PopLinen. Of course selling is still and option. Try Poshmark, ThreadUp or even setting up a shop on Etsy. Just remember many of these places take fees out of your sales, but my thought is if they do part of the work of selling, they can have it.

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2. Change your thinking about shopping. Shopping has a strange pull on many of us, and it has been scientifically proven to raise our dopamine levels giving us a high quite similar to taking drugs. If you have a more addictive personality this needs to be taken into account. I often get in the “mood” to go shopping, but I am finding more and more it takes over. I’ll have a run of several weeks where I keep wanting to go, go, go. Albeit I mostly thrift, but the truth is I don’t need anything. I do it for the feel good aspect of it. Recognizing our personality quirks gives us a better chance to not over shop or buy unnecessary items.

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3. If you are going to shop, do it wisely. Do your research. Know what stores cater to fast fashion manufacturers and give them a wide berth. Stores like those listed in the earth.org article mentioned earlier in this article are not helping our environmental clothing problem. Shop retailers with a good reputation who are actually trying to make changes in their manufacturing and planning to create less waste, and less pollution. Shop thrift stores, especially the local, smaller retailers. Local businesses need or dollars. Two of my favorite stores are the American Cancer Society Discovery shop right around the corner from me, and the Toledo Humane Society Thrift Store. They employ mostly volunteers, and most of their proceeds go to the non-profit itself, giving me an additional reason to feel good after I shop there.

In addition to doing your research on where you shop make a list of what you are shopping for. It is easy to pick up many things at a thrift store that you don’t really need just because they are cute or cheap, but we need to ask ourselves, do I really need this? Making a running list will give you the ability to better stick to your goals of only buying what you need and not continuing to be an over consumer.

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4. Wear things more than once before washing. This is an amazingly easy way to use less water and create less clothing fibers from going into our sewers and even into our ground water. Instead of automatically throwing your clothes into the laundry basket, hang them up or drape them over a chair to air out. Obviously if you get sweaty or have issues with strong body oder this is not as applicable. I typically throw tops that touch my body into the wash after one wear, but an outer layer, my jeans and even my compression socks I wear multiple times. Letting them air out seems to work great, but I also don’t struggle with heavy body oder, pet hair, drool or baby liquids. If I do get cat hair on something I just use a lint roller to get it off.

I know for me this love/hate relationship with clothing has been and will continue to be a journey, but just like with my physical health I want to keep trying to be a better, more informed consumer who not only cares for myself, but also for this amazing planet God gave us as our home.

I hope you enjoyed this Fashion Topic article. If there are other fashion related ideas you would like me to explore leave me a comment.

Have a great week.

Fickle Fashion

In an effort to speak more intelligently about fashion I often browse the latest fashion magazines at the bookstore, or scan online articles on the latest trends and colors. Recently, I have been reading information on fashion through the ages. We may have thought that it was only recently that fashion trends were influenced by movie stars, music and the socio economic status of the world around us, but that has been the case ever since Adam and Eve sewed the first fig leaves together.

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In today’s world fashion is now being influenced by several other factors which include technology, social influencers, environmental factors and identity. With the influx of technological advances there is an influx of information. In other words, we now have instantaneous exposure to the latest trending outfit, colors and accessories. We live in the information age and we are inundated with info to the point of being regularly overwhelmed.

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Social influencers have taken advantage of the tech revolution and many are earning a good living showing their followers the latest Coach bags, Jimmy Choo shoes or Giorgio Armani fragrance. There are also many sharing their ideas on enjoying fashion within a budget and learning how to better put outfits together from the clothes they already own.

It is only in the last decade or two that the idea of sustainability has really been making inroads into the fashion realm. Manufacturers and retailers are beginning to be more environmentally conscious and they are taking a long hard look at practices and outcomes that are hurting the environment and discussing and putting changes into place. Unfortunately, the idea of fast fashion is probably here to stay. It is quick, which caters to the constant stream of new trends every season and cheap which caters to many younger people who are working minimum wage jobs and still want to be able to have a fun, changeable wardrobe.

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Finally, the idea of identity has definitely influenced the fashion world. Identity has always been involved in our fashion choices from a Goth wearing black to a Grunge wearing ripped jeans and oversized flannel, but now we also have added identifying terms like non-binary, gender fluid and pansexual as well as other gender choice related terms.

My reason for saying fashion is fickle lies in the fact that what goes around comes around, and what is here today is gone tomorrow, but will be back again in a season or two. All cliches aside, I believe the most important influence in fashion is you. You determine what you are going to wear on a day to day basis. You decide what clothes you are going to invest your money in, and which ones you will overlook. As a consumer, you are the one who decides if your fashion buying choices are hurting or helping the world around you. You decide how much time you are going to invest in looking at social media influencers and how much they are going to influence you. You decide what you believe about your identity.

Fashion will continue to be fickle, at the whim of societal influences, trends and consumer demands, but fashion for you and I doesn’t have to be fickle because we can choose how we dress, how we spend our money and who we allow to influence our fashion choices.

Have a wonderfully, fashionable day!

A New Year, A New Plan

Hi everyone. A month and a half has trudged by since I last posted anything on the blog. I say trudged because, as quickly as it has flown by, it has been difficult. The end of November I got a nasty sinus infection and did a round of antibiotics. It was actually a blessing, because by the time I took my last antibiotic I was able to taste and smell again, so I enjoyed all the delicious treats the Christmas holidays provided. I enjoyed Christmas with our kids and grandkids even though over the course of the month our one grandson got Covid again, and our son-in-law ended up with the flu. There were a few days where we were not even sure we were going to be able to celebrate Christmas on the day, but it all worked out.

During this time, my husband and I were also intending to go see his parents. First we were going to go the week before Christmas, and take our younger daughter and grandson, but with him having Covid we were not able to do that. We then decided we would go the day after Christmas, during the week, but with my son-in-law having the flu we did not want to expose my in-laws to any germs. We waited. Finally, just my spouse and I left on the 30th, to visit for a quick weekend, before he had to start getting ready for the semester. We arrived late afternoon on Friday along with a large Chicago style pizza that we had picked up along the way.

That evening we enjoyed a talkative dinner with my husband’s mom, dad and sister, and were so pleased that dad, who has struggled with Parkinson’s for years, enjoyed two pieces of the thick cheesy pizza and was animated and talkative. Saturday morning, with family by his side, my father-in-law walked into eternity with Jesus. Obviously, my husband and I made the decision to stay the whole week following and help his mom with the planning and implementation of the burial and Celebration of Life service.

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I cannot emphasize enough the sovereignty and mercy of our mighty Lord. That we should be there at exactly the right time to be with our family, not only as dad passed, but during the long week of adjustment and planning after the fact is simply amazing. I saw on a daily basis how God gave strength and courage, as well as peace and calm. He used me as servant as the rest of the family dealt with all the details in the planning process. It is hard to say when facing all the loss experienced in this life, but the truth stands, God is good; His mercies are new every morning, and He loves us with a lavish love.

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With the coming of a New Year I want to make an effort to get back to consistent posting on this little blog of mine. I came very close to completely giving it up when I got sick, but I believe this tiny piece of the internet has a place and purpose put into play by God. To the rest of the world this might seem like a waste of time. Why do I want to put effort into something that I am not even getting paid for? The answer is YOU. Every once in a while, one of you will make a comment or send me a short email saying, “I love what you are doing.” “You inspire me to look at my wardrobe differently.” “You have a gift from God.” Wow! And you know what? Those comments always come, just when I begin to think I need to stop doing this.

What I am learning is that we need each other. We need a little place we can go to, like a favorite coffee shop or bookstore, where we can spend a little time hanging out, laughing, telling stories and being encouraged. Encouragement is so important. Encouragement and inspiration can be a bright flame in a world that is filled with clouds and dreariness.

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I have a few ideas that I would like to share with you about the organization and content of the blog. I still plan to post twice a week. One day will feature fashion and one day will feature faith. There might be occasions where I have more than two posts for a week, but that is my desired minimum. I want to work towards a more structured approach for the fashion page rather than flying by the seat of my pants, so that I can have an organized plan for upcoming content.

I want to go back to more of a weekly column of sorts, so this is my tentative plan.

1st. Tuesday - Outfit Inspiration - a look at sources for outfit inspiration including outside entities like Instagram and Pinterest, and inspiration hiding in our own drawers and closets.

2nd. Tuesday - Shopping Our Closets - on this day we will look to our own closets where we will start with basics that most women own, and build whole outfits around them.

3rd. Tuesday - My Style - here we will begin to explore what style is and how we can begin to find our own style. I will also talk about my own style and share some of my every day looks.

4th. Tuesday - Color Play - one of my favorite things to do is talk about color - think Pantone series - and try new combinations. This will also include patterns, textures, print mixing and sources for color inspiration.

5th. Tuesday (once every few months) - Topics - this will be a time when I discuss topics that are relevant to aging and fashion including: ageism in fashion, sustainability, modesty, being a Christian in the fashion arena, and others.

I am also looking at a few ways to bring in a little income without cluttering up my posts with advertising or pushing products. I do not feel that either of those things is part of who I am or what I want this blog to be. I am hoping to start a little resale shop, possibly through Facebook Marketplace or for those of you who are not on Facebook through Poshmark. I am also toying with the idea of adding a tip jar button to my blog, so if the Spirit moves you, you can buy me a cup of coffee or send a small thank you gift if a post was particularly helpful for you. I am not pushing for money, I just thought it would be a way for you to support something you enjoy and believe in without having to buy new products or wade through ads. I will still try to include shopping links so you can peruse at your leisure. As always, your comments and input mean more to me than anything monetary.

There is a lot to think about, research and figure out, so I covet your support and prayers as I try to make this blog a better place through consistent, quality content. If you have any ideas, thoughts or feedback, please shoot me an email or leave a comment below. Your input is what helps this be a better blog.

If you have made it this far thank you so much for reading. I appreciate all of you. On Thursday I will be sharing my plans for the Faith page, so if you enjoy reading those posts as well please come back then. Next week look for my first outfit post for the new year. Until then, love and hugs!

A Look Back at 2020 - My Favorite Outfits

Before I launch into a short series on some of the current winter trends, i wanted to revisit my favorite outfits from this past year. 2020 was a year unlike any other with the Covid Pandemic, racial unrest and the election overwhelming our newsfeeds. There were times where I just didn’t feel like being a blogger any more. I just wanted to crawl into a nice, cozy hole and not come out until all of the bad news went away. Fortunately, I didn’t do that. I had a sense that every single one of you that regularly follow me, needed a brief respite from all the bad that was going on around us. The normalcy of looking at and talking about faith and fashion, just seemed to be a good thing to do, so I kept at it.

I have a feeling that 2021 is not going to be a whole lot different from 2020. Change is going to continue to happen and change is what often pushes us well outside of our comfort zones. However, my little blog is still going to be here, as long as God gives me the health, energy and brain power to continue, I will do so. Many of you have become like family to me. Those of you who have regularly commented or even taken the time to send me a personal email have been a great source of encouragement to me, so thank you.

Here is a look back at 2020. As I have done before, I go month by month and pick out my faves. I’d love to know which outfit really inspired you.

January

Actual Amy - Waterfall Cardigan

Why I like It: This whole outfit is very much me. I love the rusty textures of the waterfall cardigan and faux suede boots. As you all know, I love my jeans and the striped long sleeve tee is the perfect choice for this ultra casual outfit. I also like the subtle print mixing going on between the stripes, snakeskin patterned bag and the speckled bead pendant.

February

Seeing Red - Thrifted Thursday - Burgundy Skirt

Why I Like It: In all honesty, I had three outfits, all together, that I liked from February. I decided to post this one as my favorite, because it was totally unexpected. I honestly did not think this outfit was going to look as good as it did when I started putting it together. I wasn’t sure about the color combo or the mix of smooth faux leather pencil skirt with oversized textured sweater, but I absolutely love everything about this outfit. The color combo was perfect and the unexpected mix of textures and lengths honestly works well. The only thing I might have changed is the shoes. I’m wondering if a burgundy shoe would have been a better choice, but overall it worked. The other two that I liked from February were, Seeing Red - Red with Tan - Velvet Jacket, and Seeing Red - Actual Amy - Plaid Jacket.

March

Spring Trends 2020 - Maxi Dresses, Psychedelic Prints and Vests

Why I Like It: March was the month I focused on the Spring Trends for the year. I will do that again this year. I like the boho, hippy vibe of this outfit with the medallion printed maxi dress, the striped tee and the denim vest. It just presents a fun, eclectic mix that makes for a great casual date night look.

April

Transitional Spring Outfit

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Why I Like It: Who doesn’t like a kimono? They are just fun, fabulous pieces and every woman should have one or two in her closet. I have many more than that, but there are so many pretty styles, prints and colors. This pink, burgundy and white piece is no exception. I especially like the fringe on the sleeve and bottom hems. Every since I learned about print mixing, I have become obsessed and nothing pairs better than stripes and flowers. The burgundy colored accessories complete the look perfectly.

May

Pantone Spring/Summer - 2020 - Sunlight, Flame Scarlet and Ash

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Why I Like It: There is nothing special about this outfit, other than it is something I would actually wear. Though all of the outfits I post are things I actually own, I don’t necessarily wear everything that you see, exactly as you see it. The reason for this is, I am trying to show a varied audience outfits that could be used for every day, work, going out or traveling. Right now I am not working outside the home and we really aren’t going anywhere, yet this outfit is something I would still wear.

June

Pantone Spring/Summer - 2020 - Tanager Turquoise, Heritage Blue and Blanc de Blanc

Why I Like It: This look is classic. It could be worn by any woman, anywhere. It is a great outfit for work, but could also be worn for a date night, or lunch with the girls. It also exudes spring and summer with the bright floral top, crisp white ankle pants and silver ballerina flats. The blue bag, beaded necklace and bracelets add fun matching elements to the ensemble.

July

Summer Outfit - Geometric Maxi Dress - Casual

Why I Like It: Honestly, I like this outfit, because I think it is fun! I love the hat, the tee and the geometric print on the maxi dress. The top is a light weight sleeveless tee material, so adding the other tee did not add bulk, weight or make it hotter. This would be a great look for traveling, going to the beach or on a picnic.

August

Outfit Inspiration - Dressed Up Casual Style

Why I Like It: What is not to love about this dressy casual look. The star piece is the thrifted kimono. It took a simple white tee and boyfriend jeans up to a new level of style. The fringe necklace compliments the purples in the kimono and the rusty orange bag the oranges. This was a nice transitional outfit for the waning days of summer.

September

Pantone Fall/Winter 2020 - Samba, Fired Brick and Sleet

Why I Like It: September was another month where I had several favorite outfits, but this one still stands out as a winner. Once again, the combination of colors, as well as the print mixing, really goes a long way to making this dressier outfit perfect for the office. I also like how my last minute addition of blush accessories pulled everything together. Two of my other faves were, Pantone Fall Winter 2020 - Peach Nougat, Sandstone and Military Olive, and Color Play - Fall Mix.

October

Pantone - Autumn/Winter 2020 - London Palette - Samba, Tawny Birch and Sheepskin

Why I Like It: I don’t wear neutrals all that often, but a combination like this really pops. The neutral palette colors of Tawny Birch and Sheepskin, combined with the bright Samba red makes an exceptional outfit. The added joy is that everything in this outfit is thrifted, except the pearls. When I can put a whole outfit together with thrifted pieces and it ends up looking like this, I am all for it.

November

Fall/Thanksgiving Outfits - Harvest Tee and Distressed Jeans - Dressy

Why I Like It: This outfit is just very me. I love wearing tees, and jeans and throwing a nice blazer and a pair of boots on really levels up a very casual outfit. The addition of a fun statement necklace and a cute bag also provide a dressier look, even with the distressed jeans.

December

A Dickens’ Christmas - The Ghost of Christmas Past

Why I Like It: Out of my whole Christmas series, I think this outfit and these photos were my faves. Winter white is really trending right now and when I put these pieces together for my Ghost of Christmas Past persona, I didn’t realize how popular these creamy whites were. The outfit itself was cozy and in keeping with my love for pants and flats. Ha, ha.

There you have it, my favorite picks from 2020. What were your faves? I would love to hear back from you. Also, if there is anything you would like to see more of on the blog, or a different topic you would like me to talk about, please let me know.

I hope your New Year is off to a great start. Check back on Thursday for a look at some of the current winter trends.

Photo credit unless otherwise stated, Rebecca Trumbull Photography.

A Look at My Fashion Philosophy and an Intro to Winter Trends

Since winter just officially started last week, I thought I would take the next few weeks to look at a few of the fashion industry winter trends. Some of these were publicized months ago with the fall trends, but as you know, I do not adhere to a super strict timeline, when it comes to trends. In fact, if it is a trend I really like I will shop the end of season sales to find a piece or pieces within the trend to save myself money. I don’t worry about being spot on with a trend timeline. My feeling is, if it is a trend worth buying into, I am going to keep it around for a while.

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Since I have started regularly writing and blogging, I have noticed that King Solomon had a lot of wisdom when he penned these words in Ecclesiastes.

“What has been, it is what will be, And what has been done, it is what will be done. So there is nothing new under the sun.”

— Ecclesiastes 1:9 (NASB)

I have said it before and I will say it again, hang on to those things you love, because they will be back around again, whether it is a print like leopard or gingham, a color scheme like monochrome or color blocking, or a silhouette like flared jeans or an a-line skirt. As long as an item still fits and it is something you love, don’t get rid of it, just because it isn’t trending anymore. Just be patient. Besides, there are no rules when it comes to your fashion style. It is what makes you feel good and confident. Wear black in the summer and white in the winter. Style your leopard print all year round and your sparkles for lunch with your friends. It really is up to you.

Before I get into the Winter trends, I wanted to share with you my fashion philosophy. Over the last few years as a blogger, I have been becoming more aware of my own style and the reasoning behind my style choices. I would like to share with you a few of my fashion parameters.

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Fit - If it doesn’t fit well, I am not going to wear it. I have found a few of my favorite jeans at thrift stores, because there I can find and try on brands I normally wouldn’t buy. I would have never shopped at Lane Bryant, but one of my favorite pairs is a thrifted Lane Bryant boot cut distressed jean. I love the rise, the stretch and the comfort of that pair. Now Lane Bryant is for women size 12 and up, so if you are short and thin, you will not be wearing their brand. You have to find what works for you. Don’t be afraid to order things, try them on and send them back, or (after Covid), try multiple pairs on at a store like Kohl’s, Macy’s or Nordstrom until you find what works for you.

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Style - We all have our own style, and it may take you a number of years of experimentation to find out what works for you. You can Google fashion styles and it will bring up a number of articles on what the different styles are. Many men and women are strictly one style or another, but most of us are blend of multiple styles. I love moto jackets and combat boots; velvet and chenille; twirly skirts and long tiered maxis; flannel shirts, scarves and cardigans.My style is a blend of casual, biker chick, boho, and tomboy with a bit of classic and grunge thrown in. No wonder I am so confused! Ha ha. Finding and owning your style is more important than trying to keep up with the trends.

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Price point - I know many people don’t let price points affect their style; if they want something, they buy it. Many people shop for higher priced products because they are a better deal as far as fit, durability and wear. As a thrifter, I know I can find quality products at second hand stores if I am willing to be choosy, do some experimenting with brands and be patient. Personally I value other things more than I value designer products. There is no doubt that many designers make very high quality products and that is part of what keeps them in business, but I cannot justify paying $300 for a bag, a pair of jeans or a pair of shoes. But that is just part of my personal style and I have nothing against people who do spend more on their clothes. Hopefully, they are in a position where that is easier on their wallets, than it is on mine. There is another idea that goes along with price point and that brings me to the next fashion rule I try to follow.

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Sustainability - When we talk about sustainability in fashion we are talking about the production and distribution of clothing, shoes and accessories in a manner that is both environmentally friendly and conducive to changing consumer behaviors. In a world where so much is thrown away it is no surprise that the clothing industry for many years has been a leader in post production waste. Not only the remnants from manufacture of the products themselves, but the waste water and other toxic sludge that is dumped into the environment. There is a fledgling movement underway to change these practices in the fashion industry and make clothing manufacture and distribution what sustainability entity Green Strategy calls Circular Fashion. You can see a clearer definition of this by clicking on the link.

Basically, circular fashion promotes the ideas that fashion from beginning to end can follow a circular loop that includes better quality fabrics, more environmentally friendly production steps with less waste, marketing that includes educating the consumer and creating a consumer who is more likely to return to these products and the repurposing of textiles either through donation to second hand sellers or to entities that will turn the products back into new products through incineration to create energy or through textile fiber recycling.

Being a thrifter enables me to do my part to stay the circular course of textiles and to do it at a price point that is much easier on my checkbook.

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Modesty - You might say I am an ostrich sticking my head in a hole if I don’t buy into the over sexualized aspects of fashion. I am fully aware of what is going on. You can’t look at a magazine cover while standing in the supermarket checkout that doesn’t have some reference to sex on the cover. Well, maybe not Taste of Home. Ha, ha. I have studied magazines like Seventeen, Vogue, Marie Claire, In Style and others. Every single one gives word space, and/or photo space, to talking about our sexual partners, fantasies, problems and issues. Pictures include women with varying degrees of sexual intonation from the lack of bras, pants or shirts, to positions with legs wide spread leaning back precariously close to an orgasm without a partner. Oh, sure, they have clothes on, but come on people, just what do you think these magazines are trying to sell?

I believe we, as women, have done ourselves a disservice in buying into what many forms of media are pushing. That is not to say, they never have an article that communicates the creativity and power of women. Many do, but I struggle to believe that the girls growing up in this world aren’t affected by the combination. If you say women are strong and creative, but place that article next to a photo of a sexualize woman, aren’t we then, promoting the idea that the only thing truly strong, creative and beautiful about women is their sex. Look at how many young women and girls idolize women in entertainment. No doubt, most of these women are gorgeous and extremely talented, but when it comes to how they present themselves by their clothing choices, it makes me wonder what are they really trying to say.

I am not saying we should be total prudes. Especially if you are in a committed relationship to another person. It is important to dress in a way that shows that person you love them and want to be sexy for them. However, when we are out in public, or promoting our blogs or our Instagrams, I think is is important to promote things that will last, like being creative or smart or talented. Physical beauty is fleeting, and what is truly sexy is not how much of ourselves we show off, but how beautifully the hidden places in our hearts rise to the surface.

Those are just some of the things I think about when it comes to my views on fashion and my approach to the outfits I pick out and the topics I talk about. I won’t be posting on Thursday this week as my Hubby and I are going to go see his parents for a few days. Next week I’ll pick back up with a look at some of this winter’s best trends. Until then, stay safe and have a very Happy New Year. See you in 2021!